Here are some ways to ask out that special someone for a second outing.
Make Sure Your First Date is Fun
Too often daters tend to put a lot of pressure on first dates. They begin to think of the possibility of a relationship rather than just enjoying the night out with their date. Rather than worrying about whether your date is husband or wife material, focus on the kind of time you two are having. If conversation is lagging, turn it around with some great first date questions.
Keep the First Date Short
A surefire way to have your date wish to see you again is by leaving them wanting more. That is, don't drag your date out so much that it seems boring toward the end. Make sure the last few minutes especially are left on a high note: no talk of serious things, no belaboring about what to do next. Chose an activity that lasts an hour to two hours maximum, and plan to leave immediately after.
Ask About Things You Both Have in Common
Talk with your date about how you could do something together that you both enjoy for the next outing. By setting up the expectation, your date will anticipate getting asked out at the end of your first date. Perhaps you both like skiing, author events, wine, silly movies, or the like. The activity doesn't matter as long as it's something you both enjoy. Then, ask for a second date with this shared activity in mind.
Keep a Little Bit of Mystery
Don't drag out every horror story or interesting fact about your life. Practice first date conversation, but focus more attention on your date. Don't go off on tangents about yourself to the point of neglecting or even boring your date. Leave them wanting to find out more about you.
Chat About Things You Like to Do
If your date is shy about sharing details of his or her life, talk about what you like to do with such passion that he or she can't help but to find out more about your favorite hobby. When you find that you've created a spark of interest, suggest that for the next date you two can pursue the activity together.
Sometimes the simplest option is the best one. If you want to see your date again, tell him. Have an activity, time, and date in mind before you pose the question. Then ask if he would like to meet you out for a second date. What can it hurt? If he says no, at least you tried. But you'll never know unless you ask.
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