If you're wondering about your partner's extracurricular activities, here are five signs that he or she may be cheating.
Infidelity can be one of the most heartbreaking things to deal with in life. Not just the affair but also the betrayal of trust. Often, it’s difficult to come to the realization that your partner has strayed. Take note of these indications if you suspect your parnter of infidelity:
1) Your partner is acting differently towards you
One of the first signs of trouble in a relationship is when your partner suddenly treats you with extra affection, or starts to ignore you completely. Any change in behavior is suspect, because it implies a change in life experience. If your partner hasn’t changed anything about his or her life that you know of, and yet seems to suddenly behave differently toward you, try to find out why. While you don’t want to come off immediately accusing your partner, you do want to find out possible reasons for their change in personality.
2) Your partner becomes angry or defensive if questioned
It’s said the best defense is a good offense, so if your partner refuses to answer your questions it may be a product of their guilt in deceiving you. If you ask your partner a simple question and they immediately blow up into a rage about your “nagging,” it could be a sign that they’ve got something to hide. Remember, always approach your partner gently when asking about their life or whereabouts and don’t just accuse. There could be a valid explanation for their missing dinner or coming home late from the office. Still, in a respectful relationship people communicate with each other, so if there’s an area your partner refuses to talk about it could be a sign that they are ashamed or embarrassed at their infidelity.
3) New people begin to surface
Letters, emails, or phone calls from people you haven’t heard your partner mention before begin to invade your home. Couples don’t need to share the same friends, but they are often aware of each other’s acquaintances. So if someone new happens to call and your partner refuses to really tell you who he or she is, it may be a sign that a new relationship has begun behind your back.
4) Your partner has cheated in the past
Couples have a right to know whether their partner has been unfaithful with their current relationship, or a past one. Discuss infidelity with your partner so you know that you are both on the same page when it comes to dealing with the subject. It's true that if someone has been unfaithful in the past, they may do it again. A propensity to cheat, no matter the circumstances, is sign that an individual may use infidelity as a way to avoid dealing with issues directly. It should be noted that if your partner is not showing any of the other signs mentioned here, however, you shouldn’t automatically assume they are cheating just because they’ve done it in the past.
5) You have a nagging feeling that won't go away
Trust your gut. Often it’s that first little feeling that calls your attention to the fact that something is wrong. Don’t accuse your partner until you know for sure he or she has been unfaithful. But if you’ve got a feeling, pay attention to it.
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hi there i have that gut feeling that my partner is still in love with his
ex partner when he returns his children home to thier mum after having them
on the weekends he tells me he wont be long but doesnt return home for ages
what does that mean
Dec 16, 2008 8:37 AM
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maybe the kids don't let him leave in a hurry?
Dec 22, 2008 7:04 AM
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hi i have a gut that always tell me somethings not right about my
relationship
Jan 9, 2009 8:35 PM
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Hello, I'm sure that my better half is cheating because he's distant, work
late, found scar on back and he said he got it from work, he wanted to
change our sexual activities all of a sudden without question, always
called me at work and said nothing, would ask how was work, he told me to
stop asking such a questions after ten years of answering me, a song would
come on the radio he went down membering lane then look at me like he was
singing to me, had a strong gut feeling, told that i was crazy, tried to
find ways to leave by starting arguments with me so i would say get out,
never did and it made him mad, alone with adjusting the car seat, finding a
purfume bottle in the car on my side, comming from work late stopping to
washup and smelling like a purfume factory. Yet he said that i don't trust
him and at the previous christmas party i went to the ladies room and when
i caught up with him he was sitting down sweating on the forhead, i ask why
i got the ha treatment. I WANT OUT!
Jan 19, 2009 4:57 AM
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I was in a 10 year relationship. He left me for two new girlfriends that he
had been cheating with. We live close by to each other, it is not hard to
find out about each other. The break up happen 4 years ago and he still
continues sleeping with both women. I could be the third woman but I don't
play his game. After the break up I learned about other cheatings during
our relationship. Two of his previous divorces were caused by him cheating.
I mentioned he could have a sexual addiction,he did not think so. If the
two women with him are also sexual addicts, is it possible for them to be
happy their situation?
Apr 8, 2009 11:06 PM
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my wife left out to take my daughter home and didn't come right back
home.so i got in my car and tried to found out were she was.low and behold
she drove right by me not knowing it was my car.so i rode behind her to see
were she was going, and i looked inside the car and there was a man in the
car with her.i flashed my lights to get her to stop and she took off like
she stole something.she ran me off the road and i crashed my car and almost
died. she keep saying that she's not cheating. what do i do?
May 18, 2009 5:15 AM
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My partner has cheated on me in the past and i have a bad feeling in my
heart that she may be doing it again and i can't get over it. She gets
really defensive when i ask her if she is and i asked her to marry me and
yes she said yes but something tells me she is. What do i do?
May 20, 2009 9:12 PM
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Everyone is adding comments about thinking that there love one is cheating.
But in my situation my spouse believes and is accusing me of cheating and
that makes me feel horrible. It's sad to know that trust is an issue in my
relationship I hate this feeling and Im sure that others feel the same. It
feels really bad to be accused that I feel that we no longer have trust in
our relationship, and with out it I don’t think a relationship will last.
My opinion towards people that are accusing there partners is that to be
careful because in my situation the gut feeling that my spouse has is not
trust and due to it our relationship is really fragile.
Jun 28, 2009 11:30 PM
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there must be an open communication in a relationship to last, also ask
yourself what have you done why does your partner cheated on you...
Jun 30, 2009 7:44 PM
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I have noticed in past relationships that girls get really mad at me for
even talking to another girl, like i'm doing something wrong. I even had
one girl accuse me of hitting on my 1st cousin who has a fiance', and come
to find out she was cheating
May 18, 2007
