Why He Won't Make a Move
Are Men Afraid to Approach Some Women?
While you are getting ready to head out on the town alone or with a group of girlfriends, you simply want to make an impression just in case you run into "him"...you know, Mr. Right. You choose the perfect outfit, you hair is just right, and you have on that new mineral makeup you have been hearing about. Your shoes and accessories are perfect as is your hair, including your favorite diamond ring that you bought as a present for yourself. You hold out your hand to admire it, take a final spin in the mirror, and confidently head out the door.
Once you arrive at your destination, you confidently saunter over to the bar for a drink and secretly hope that you do not have to pay for it, being that you look so stunning and all. If you are alone, you turn slightly on your stool or chair and keep your arms unfolded so as not to appear locked in or unapproachable.
If you are joining friends, they all arrive, not looking quite as nice as you do, but everyone has her own style so that is not really an issue. Light-hearted conversation ensues and there they are...the hottest guys in the room: three of them and four of you and your friends. Well, someone will not get a drink tonight, but you are more than sure it will not be you. After all, you look sensational. Right?
What Goes Through a Man's Mind
When a man sees a woman of greater-than-average beauty he makes several assumptions.
- She already has several men after her.
- She will reject him.
- She is high maintenance and he cannot afford to keep her happy.
- She is snobbish or bitchy.
- She will not give him the time of day anyway.
- Since beautiful women are hit on a lot, she will see him as just another player hitting on her anyway.
How to Help Him Feel More Comfortable
What exactly makes you approachable anyway? According to Ask Men, there are four levels of approachability. The levels are used to judge or grade the chances a man will be successful at obtaining conversation, or possibly even a phone number from a beautiful woman. For each time, there is a score, or percentage of chance of success.
- The perched peacock – She is usually with friends, thrives on male attention; however, will never acknowledge it. Approachability score – 10%.
- The bloodhound – She is out to get a man and is ready to approach those who interest her. She will go home with a man, but is not out for a relationship; at least not one that lasts longer than one night. Approachability score – 90%
- The galloping deer – She is subtly sexy and more innocent in nature and attitude. She will usually talk to any man who approaches her but does not seem sleazy. Approachability score – 75%
- The lioness – She is at the club with a man that she brought with her. Approachability Score – 5%.
Now that you know the basic four types of women that are seen in clubs, and how the average man feels about approaching her, decide which of these four groups or combinations best describes you. Once you decide, make subtle adjustments in your own presentation from clothing to attitude in order to boost your chances of not paying for your own drinks all night. Even more so, take a moment to define which types best describe your girlfriends.
While you should never alter who you are at the core, if you do not find that you are getting enough attention from the opposite sex, there are simple ways to evaluate some of the possible reasons why. Always try to be friendly and do be sure to show just enough interest if in fact you are actually interested.
Smile and make eye contact with someone who interest you, and you will be surprised how much confidence you can transfer to your potential partner.
Shy Man
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